Sometimes I am amazed at the reactions of people.

While I am very happy for those that have gone through IVF and gotten their + and are past those first few ultrasounds, I do have a bit of an issue with the "newbies" who have made it on their first try and are all of the sudden experts.

So many people have gone through so much more pain.. Ectopics, early misses etc. I am not down playing any pain that others have felt, but please stop with the know it all attitude and baby dust crap if you have only done this once and been successful

IF is probably the most painful thing I have had to go through. 14 years of it.. Ectopic twin and interuterine twin both lost, 2 early losses and yes finally a healthy baby. I am still mourning the loss of my 4 and of the ones I will never have.

Please don't say that the way you made it work is the way it needs to be. Don't you think that if there was a magical combination of things, then we would all be successful? What works for one may not work for the other. Just because it worked for you does NOT mean it will work for someone else or for you again for that matter.

Yes, it is possible to have an ectopic and an a sac in uterine
Yes, it is possible to lose a twin and still have a healthy P.

No, it's not always possible to tell if its twins by a first beta number.
No, normal rising betas so not mean it's not ectopic.

Please just stop.